This article is continued from Part 1
As mentioned in the part one of this article, God created the wife to complete man and that the woman should be in subjection to the husband. This is not easy. It takes work but it is a lot easier if both spouses are saved Christians. If the couple focus on what God wants of them and continually pray about it, then the journey to a happy marriage can begin.
So how can a wife be powerful, you ask? Well, let us look at the following:
1.The wife needs to know her husband as a man.
A man and woman are totally different, not only in physical appearances but other areas as well. Their interests, their strengths, abilities, their thinking are all different from a woman's.
So what are you to do? Take an interest in him. Ask him questions you know he will like. Sometimes a man just needs a little prodding to start a conversation with his wife. Communication is a major key in unlocking the door to a new world in marital bliss. Compliment him on his accomplishments-big or small.
Women may hardly realise it but a man's confidence is of the utmost importance to him. If a wife nags (for lack of a better word), then the man shuts himself off emotionally and then there is a wall between them. The man does not want to hear himself being criticized. He feels as if he can do nothing right but when a wife compliments him, it boosts his self-esteem his confidence level is raised.
Think about it ladies, this will be even more rewarding for you because then he will want to please you even more.
2.Wives, love your husbands.
Spoil him rotten. Love him unconditionally- no matter what faults he may possess. We possess faults too, don't we? We have all come short of the glory of God. Your husband is your number one in human relationships. Some of us wives who are also mothers tend to make the mistake of putting our kids before our spouses. That is a grave mistake. Remember that you begin and end as a wife. The kids will grow up one day and have a life on their own and what would you and your husband be? Strangers or friends?
A lot of times, taking care of kids tend to be physically and emotionally draining. By bedtime, a lot of wives just want to go to bed. That is it. The husband's physical needs of sexual intimacy takes a back burner. If any woman who denies this, then you are an exception. There are also a lot of wives who uses sex as a weapon. Then all that makes her is a manipulator.That is not what God had in mind.
Ephesians 5:31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
Ephesians 5:32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
Sexual intimacy is an important and sacred part of marriage. God told Adam and Eve to go forth and multiply. Sex is a God-given command to a husband and wife. Marital sexual intimacy reflects the wonder of God's creation. It is the closest two souls can join. This is also a reflection of the intimacy of Christ and the Church- where the people should be one with Jesus.
3.Support your husband.
No matter how much you may disagree, support him.
Genesis 3:16 ".....and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee".
A wife's unconditional support portrays her total obedience and love to him the same way the church is supposed to have total obedience and love to Christ. You cannot have total obedience if you disobey at any time. Now for all the feminists out there, this is not an easy pill to swallow. We gave up all our rights when we gave our all to Jesus.
Have you ever heard the saying "Behind every successful man is his wife?". Food for thought there. Keep your husband motivated in doing things. Always praise him and if there is a situation that you are not pleased in, then try to find something good about it and let him know.
Here are some tips to having a successful and happy marriage:
1. Put God first in your life. Fully rely on God.
(Marriage is a threesome -Husband,God,Woman).
2. Love unconditionally.
3. Pray individually and together.
4. Keep the communication line open.
5. Use soft words.
6. Make time for each other.Have dates or special moments.
7. Do not use sex as a weapon.
8. Laugh daily with each other-no matter how silly it may seem.
9. Be faithful.(Nothing destroys a marriage more than unfaithfulness).
10. Take responsibility for your own actions. Quit any blame game.
11. Show respect to each other.
12. Be better listeners.
13. Commit to have same rules in parenting.
14, Be committed to the marriage- for better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and in health- till death do you part. This is a covenant between you and God.
Remember that being married is work. You cannot expect a happily ever after storybook marriage. That is fiction. Real life does not guarantee any happily ever after but it does get better if we all apply God's commands to our living.